We don’t have cable (sob!) but we, luckily, have an apple tv where I can watch the NFL network at my whim. This past week while cleaning, I was watching/listening to a show called “NFL Fantasy Live“.
I finally had to come sit down and listen after hearing the hosts and their guests to see what was going on. There were three main guys and a female guest commentator. One of the gentlemen, whom I’ve now since stalked to discover, was Matt Smith. Every single time someone else was speaking, he either cut them off or completely rebutted their point with such derision that I had to look him up. His profile is impressive, he graduated from Pepperdine University with degrees in political science and speech communication. He also has an extensive “experience” list. Regardless…oh my word! His qualifications meant nothing when compared to the way he talked to the other panelists (especially the female one!!). I couldn’t get past the way he was talking to ever really hear what he had to say.
When you’re working with a team, are you listening to hear or listening to rebut? Is your goal to dominate the conversation because you’re the smartest one at the table, or are you there to collaborate with others? Are you allowing others to speak, and honoring the fact that they have shared? I hope that in any given situation I am able to share my thoughts without insulting what others are thinking and saying.
Are you allowing others to speak and honoring the fact that they have shared? I hope that in any given situation I am able to share my thoughts without insulting what the others are thinking and saying.