When I talk about this space and what I share, I am always quick to mention that it is primarily a place where I share what I got wrong and my reflections on the experience in hopes that others could learn from it.
I’ve even blogged about my lack of experience in new professional settings…especially that first year, all the things I got wrong…or this gem from 2017 (lil’baby leader Amber!)
I was reminded this past week, even in all my glorious middle ageness that I STILL have so much to learn and how open I need to be to the possibility of just being…wrong. I had the opportunity to be the opening keynote for an Opal EdTech/EduAcademic event that was held in Orlando. Orlando…where I can get a DOLE WHIP? In.
Orlando is also where one George Couros lives. George often refers to himself as my big brother in this edtech/leadership space. 13 years ago we connected and it has been years of banter, fights, and political punches. I adore his family and he has been a huge cheerleader for my beast in her early education endeavors.
So when he asked if he could come to hear me speak, I immediately said no.
Ya’ll. His feedback was sincere, purposeful, and beneficial. The suggestions he provided, which were about what I could have further emphasized or made more impactful, proved to be incredibly helpful. The way he recommended connecting with the audience at the end will genuinely change how I close moving forward.
All that to say…man, was I wrong…AGAIN.
(which is just so annoying! That makes George right…again.)
What is the resistance to being better? How big is my ego that I can’t accept hearing what could potentially be true and helpful, just b/c I am scared of it being critical? How often do I miss an opportunity to be better… just because?
Why do I resist having confidence not in my knowledge, but in my ability to learn?
One of my purposes in education is to help others be more than they think they already are, and sometimes that means DIRECT FEEDBACK. And yet…am I willing? Do I come across as willing?
Such the hypocrite I can be…
George wrote a fantastic blog about the ability to soak up the greatness of those around you. Give it a read. Don’t be like me, be open to hearing how you could be better …even if it’s not delivered in a pretty complimentary package with a bow. 😉
Begrudgingly better &
Amber
First of all, you are awesome.
Secondly, I love giving feedback and with your help over the years, I hopefully have been better at doing that. There are ways that you can give feedback to try and help people get better without making them feel deflated in the process. This is something I have tried to get better at over the years because of incredible people like yourself.
Third, I am the only person referring to myself as your big brother?!?!?!
😛
Thanks for this post!
Sincerely,
The guy who says he is your big brother even though you don’t say I am your big brother