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Learning gems: principles for all on what good learning looks like!

October 21, 2024 by Amber Leave a Comment

We just completed a most glorious fall break. I had several speaking engagements leading up to the break and it was a great reconnection to educators who are SEEKING opportunities to learn and to be better. Even if it means, gulp, changing. We know in education and professional development, the learning journey is never easy, but it’s always rewarding. Whether it’s students mastering new concepts or educators and staff taking on new challenges, growth comes through experience, discomfort, and reflection. As leaders, it’s our role to support that journey, even when it means letting go of team members we admire as they pursue new opportunities.

🤸 Humans learn by doing, through experience.

Think about the skills you use every day—how many did you actually pick up in a classroom? Probably not a lot. We learn best when we’re actually doing the thing we’re trying to master. (please see why I don’t cook for dinner. ugh.) The best learning programs let people bring real work into their learning, and bring learning back into their work.

🚧 We learn best just outside our comfort zone.

Kids are fearless. But as adults, we get scared of messing up, so we stick to what’s safe and miss out on growth. Great learning pushes us just enough—not to panic, but to stretch. When we try, fail, and learn, the impossible starts to feel doable. Professional growth is about gradually expanding our comfort zones until new skills feel natural.

Change is hard, even good change.

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💡 Motivation drives mastery.

We all know talent is needed to make mastery happen, in whatever category we’re talking about. But top-down mandates for learning? No one loves those. The magic happens when we find the overlap between district/state goals and employee passions. When your people have a say in their learning journey, when it taps into their motivations, they engage deeply and learn better.

📖 Learning how to learn is the most durable skill.

The world of education is changing fast—not news there to any of us in the trenches. While Twitter’s talking about AI skills for the future, the real game-changer is learning how to learn. When our teachers (or teams!) know how to adapt, how to break down challenges, and how to keep building new skills, they’re ready for whatever comes next. The best programs help people strengthen those learning muscles.

👩🏾‍🍳 Reflection is the secret ingredient.

Ever wonder why some expensive workshops seem to fade from memory a week later? The problem is a lack of reflection. Spray and pray. They dip you in “new”, shake ya off, and then send you back to doing what you’ve always done. The best learning experiences weave reflection throughout—giving people time to connect the dots and think about how they’ll apply what they’ve learned. That’s what turns a workshop into lasting change.

🏈 Learning is a team sport.

Yes, bite-sized online courses are great for picking up certain skills—like coding. But if we want to shift mindsets, change behaviors, or transform culture, we need each other. We need peers to share with, mentors to challenge us, and managers to support our growth. Learning is more powerful when it happens in community, with accountability, encouragement, and the kind of lessons that ripple throughout the team. (PLC’s anyone?)

 

I have an employee I adore who just left me for a new and exciting GROWN UP opportunity. I am so happy for him, but I wasn’t surprised to hear how hard his first day was. We are all fine with change, right? As long as it’s impacting other people and not us. Ha!

Even when we bring that change on ourselves, even when it’s what we WANT, it’s still hard. Watching someone you care about grow and move on is a bittersweet reminder of how hard it can be to step into the unknown. But growth always comes with a bit of discomfort. And in the end, that’s what makes what we do in education worthwhile—knowing that each step forward, no matter how hard, is part of something bigger. I’m proud of him and excited to see where this path will lead, even if it’s tough right now. I hope you’ve got reminders of why we do what we do surrounding you as well!

 

Always learning &

Filed Under: Leadership in Chaos Tagged With: #beintentional #classroom, AmberTeamann, educational leadership, personal growth, professional development, Professional Growth

Leadership Lessons from Lyrics: You’re on Your Own, Kid…no, really. You totally are.

April 15, 2024 by Amber Leave a Comment

In the series “Leadership Lessons from Lyrics,” this is week three comparing Tswift lyrics and the ever-shifting world of educational leadership…or at least, in the ways I’ve experienced it.

Today’s lyric resonates personally, painfully, but also highlights the rewards of leading. These lyrics suggest a journey of self-discovery and resilience that are more relatable than you might think. The gem of greatness that is “You’re on Your Own, Kid” ends with the following:

‘Cause there were pages turned with the bridges burned
Everything you lose is a step you take
So make the friendship bracelets
Take the moment and taste it
You’ve got no reason to be afraid
You’re on your own, kid
Yeah, you can face this
You’re on your own, kid
You always have been

Change is hard, even good change.

Pages turned, with bridges burned. I often marvel (spiral?) at how I spent almost 6 years with 75+ staff members…and almost all of them are people I will never talk to or see again. Isn’t that a crazy thought? When making a change, especially as dramatic of one as I did when I left in 2020, relationships naturally evolve. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, the regular interactions we once held so tightly can trickle down to a stop, leading paths to diverge. This isn’t a reflection of failure or a reason for regret but a part of the natural ebb and flow of professional relationships. (Amber, reread that sentence as often as you need to.) As we grow and change, so do our connections with others. Recognizing and accepting these changes with grace is essential for personal growth but also allows us to cherish the times of close relationships and learn from each phase of our relationships. Those relationships are the pages turned.

Everything you lose is a step you take.

Every loss or shift away from the familiar is a step forward in our professional growth. From classroom to coach to assistant principal or whatever the next rung up the ladder might be…relationships change. I often say that as principal my jokes were always funny and my outfits were always cute. Your position, once you’ve started to advance, will always precede your person.

Sacrificing the ability to be off the cuff or to speak without thinking is one of the things you lose as you take those steps “up”. One of my favorite Todd Whitaker conversations was about transparent leadership, and how even if people think they want to know everything, there’s a reason they don’t.

The easy answers were answered before the questions made their way to your desk.

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So make the friendship bracelets, take the moment and taste it.

Enjoy where you are, because someday you’ll look back and think…man, that went by fast. Leaders embrace building and nurturing relationships. Through the decades we do this, the bonds we create, the memories we make, with our campuses, our students, and their families, are the bright and shiny friendship bracelets we hold onto. Whether it be from a Facebook memory, or a framed picture that hangs on your wall, those “beads” serve as the memories of the special moments you’d had together. These connections are not just professional necessities but are the actual reason this hard work is so worth it. Reminders of the path we’ve taken to get there. Each time I reshare or click “Love” in appreciation of a memory shared, I mentally have to shake off the “Gosh, can’t she just move on?” guilt I mentally assign the action…but that’s just me, taking the moment.

You’ve got no reason to be afraid, you’re on your own, kid.

While educational leaders work closely with others, there are moments when even the most collaborative can feel isolated and alone. I wonder, though, if our lived experiences shape our perspectives in such a way that, fundamentally, we are always on our own as individuals. A coworker and I had this conversation this week about athletes and records being “broken”, and the caveat of the “yeah, but back in my day…” that usually follows that celebration.

We may all be doing the same jobs, but nobody else has done it just the way you’re doing it.

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I can’t relate to principals now, I haven’t led a campus dealing with the budget shortfalls or teacher shortage that’s happening right now. Every campus is different, has its history, and has its own “white fences”. Advice shared or given, ultimately, can be met with “but you don’t know my people.” Hopefully, these lyrics remind us that even when the journey feels solitary, our inner strength and capabilities are enough to meet these challenges. That’s why you are where you are…because YOU can handle it.


Leadership is not just about guiding others but also about continuously evolving as individuals. Each challenge we face, and each decision we make, shapes us into more capable and understanding leaders. Remember, every bridge burned and every page turned invites fresh opportunities to write our own stories. Be confident that while the journey may often be solo and feel even solo-er, it is uniquely yours—a tribute to your ability to adapt and thrive.

Keep moving forward friends, with courage, for in leadership like in life, we learn from the journey than we do the destination.

Humming along &

Filed Under: Leadership Tagged With: Building Relationships, educational leadership, Leadership Challenges, leadership lessons, leadership strategies, personal development, Professional Growth, resilience in education, self-discovery in leadership, Taylor Swift Lyrics

Swift Lessons in Leadership through Lyrics: The Fine Line Between Honesty and Cruelty”

April 1, 2024 by Amber Leave a Comment

 

Listen. I fully appreciate the middle aged-ness of myself. Truly. However, this blog is about being TRANSPARENT as well, right? Not only am I a “seasoned” leader…I also might be have watched the “Eras” tour an OBNOXIOUS amount of times since it has come out.

It’s the perfect thing to have playing in the background while I cook, clean or… scroll. And if you know me, you know I’m not that great at cooking or cleaning. (I like to think it’s ok because at least I am cute and funny…but MT says I’m not that funny. Sigh.)

Anyhoo…I’ve noticed here lately that there are some powerful lyrics that keep getting stuck in my head from Ms. Swift. And the application from them to my leadership experiences just can’t be denied, even I wanted to pretend to not be all Swift’sessed. For those who associate her with pop sugar and bouncy are in for a treat.

First up…in “All Too Well”, we have this gem:

“And you call me up again just to break me like a promise
So casually cruel in the name of being honest
I’m a crumpled up piece of paper lying here..”

Causally cruel. In the name of being honest.

We hear, frequently, that honesty and transparency in leadership is crucial. A necessary trait. Sometimes though, that honesty can be wielded like a sword. The person swinging that sword has the force field of being right, regardless of how deep it cuts.

Not seeing how it could apply?

I’ve written a lot about #thefirstyear, and all the things as a principal I’d gotten wrong and the adjustments I made thanks to the team around me. How though, did I know, how tragically terrible it was going?

I was on my way out to a meeting when I was pulled aside by members of my “team”.  They asked me to sit in one of their offices, while the two of them broke the news. They had finally been compelled “in the name of being honest” to share information I needed to know.

The staff was unhappy. They were looking to leave. The scores and culture on the campus I’d been honored enough to be asked to lead was falling apart, because of me. Because of my leadership.

I was devastated.

But I was also confused. I managed to maintain composure and ask. Who? Who wanted to leave? What? What exactly had I done?

Well…they couldn’t tell me that. Couldn’t. Wouldn’t.

I vividly remember asking, “So what I am hearing is that I am a terrible principal…but you have nothing to offer in how I can get better? Or to change what I am doing?” They didn’t.

I can’t even articulate how devastating it is to not only hear that you’re a failure, but also that there wasn’t anything you could do about it. From people you thought were also on your “team”.

It was a pivotal moment in my principal’ing experience. If you’ve read this from ASCD, you know it didn’t get better right away. But, it did get better. It actually got a lot better before I left 6 years later.

I never forgot, however, how cutting that conversation was, even in all its rightness.

Telling someone they are terrible doesn’t help them get any better.

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What is the goal in “brutal honesty”? Does it set the receiver up to improve? Isn’t that the purpose of feedback? Surely it’s not just for the satisfaction of the person giving it?

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I used to tell my staff to always remember when talking to parents about a concern to always remember that the student you are so worked up over, for whatever reason, is most likely the most important thing in someone else’s world. If you go guns in blazing, no matter how right you are, you aren’t going to be heard.

You can be right all day long and lose every relationship you have.

So today’s lesson is this…worry less about being so honest, and care more about the relationship. YOu can, believe it or not, do both.

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Filed Under: Leadership, Uncategorized Tagged With: Building Relationships, Constructive Criticism, Emotional Intelligence, Honesty in Leadership, Inspirational Leadership, Leadership Development, learning from mistakes, Professional Growth, Taylor Swift, Transparency

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